Hurtful Words by Shelly David Wright

[Kim Watkins]

"Hurtful Words."

With our words we can convey emotions and say
things that we can never really take back.
When we speak from our flesh we become tools of
darkness where we're used in a spiritual attack.
The tongue is as venomous as a Viper very deadly
when it's in the mouth of someone who has been hurt.
Someone who will say what it takes to tear you down
using their words to talk down to you as if you were dirt.
Through the spirit there are things said that belittle a
person and the words can start something water can't put out.
Many are sleeping in their graves from the things
their mouths led them to say without a doubt.
There are many who are in dying marriages and relationships
who are slinging hurtful words at each other in anger everyday.
Speaking from wounded feelings emotions abused who
through their crying who don't care what they say.
Words are powerful and when people are vulnerable
they can be used as weapons to destroy another at will.
With our mouths we can either praise a person through
Love or out of jealousy and frustration kill.
We have all said things without thinking first through
our emotions that we wished we had never said.
Many have said things that they wished were never spoken
words that they couldn't take back dead.
We need to be mindful of another's feelings but that is
more easier to say than to actually do.
When someone has pushed a button in the flesh we tend
not to hold our water and let them have it too.
Father forgive us for those things we've let fly in our
anger at a time when we just didn't think at all.
Hurtful words have caused so much drama in the flesh
and is now causing the marriage of two to fall.
Wars and conflicts have been started because of hurtful
words that were used by a spiteful person as an assault.
Words and the person using them out of emotions are to
blame for the friction in many homes it's their fault.
Hurtful words are truly verbal abuse to verbally assault
someone calling them out of their name or cursing them is wrong.
Someone with a mouth like a sewer is being used by satan
and I could promise you they'll say something
and they won't be around too long.

Shelly David Wright, Poet
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[AJ 'AJ ROK' WOODSON]

thank you Kim
for posting his work in his absence
I know many will be blessed by it
tell brotha Shelly we keep him in our prayers and miss his presence on the site!

[Kim Watkins]

Thank you for sharing your great testimony brother Carl Bellamy and for these encouraging words. My brother Shelly will truly be inspired to continue writing the blogs. I'm glad that you and others have been blessed by them. HalleluYah!! I will forward your comments to him. Peace and blessings

[Kim Watkins]

Thank you very much brother AJ for your comments. Shelly has been busy, but I will forward your comments to him. He will be posting more poems soon! Take care.

[AJ 'AJ ROK' WOODSON]

brotha Wright as always thank you for this awesome thought proking blog posting
havent seen you on the site in a minute, but when you do come thru u always drop bombs that make us think and reflect, please keep em comin bruh!
Carl my brotha, thank you for your reply and clarification!
I really want to hear what everyone else feels on this topic

[Carl bellamy]

Peace and blessings, just wanted to clarify a statement that I typed which might be taken the wrong way, When I was referring to control of the marriage, I said that my primary focus in my marriage is to protect that which is out to destroy my marriage. (which cannot be my wife because she is the primary focus of protection), that statement is simply saying that "my wife" (regardless of any of her personal issues) is NEVER to be viewed as the enemy of destruction in regards to our marriage because she is my rib that God took from me and created as woman as a helpmate for me to do the will of GOD, which in marriage is to "presevere, grow, protect our covenant of marriage to reflect the true love of GOD which again is 1 Corinthian 13:4. Just wanted to make sure that was understood as clearly as I could make it.

Be Blessed

[Carl bellamy]

Peace and blessings sister in Christ,

I was just reading through your blog post and I must commmend you on this topic because I myself have gone through this struggle. Not necessarily with the words that I use, but in regards to words and statements being used negatively towards me as a man in marriage. What I ve learned about communication is that people tend to "draw their own conclusions" of what "someone else is saying" and I find that to be the main problem as well as the what I call "validity of a person's belief". By this I mean that whatever a person's intentions are tend to be "judged" by the judgment of another person, again which causes a conflict of interest between the two. Basically, its all about respect and trust of one's self and its sad to say that not everyone has this respect and trust for themselves. So how can we expect them to have it for others.
I consider this lack of respect and trust for ones self as an "emotional sickness" which usually comes from a scarred past life experience. My wife has had these experiences which had caused many drastic problems in our current marriage. My personal experiences in my life taught me that people who tend to be secretive are usually people who are afraid of what others will say about what they know about you or they tend to have something to hide that shames them. Despite all efforts sometimes, one can find themselves a victim to this harsh and verbal abuse which cuts like a knife to your spirit and the hurt it brings is beyond words, which usually ends up in violence of some sort. With the domestic violence epidemic at an all time high, relationships are being destroyed because people who have personal issues are not being "healed of their current hurt or choose not to seek help for the hurt they have" which results in "hurt people, hurting people". I say this because I was unfortunately charged with DM against my wife who I am still with today, (thank God) and we ve gone through all kinds of couseling and church ministries are the only counselors who helped us both. My persnal issue was that I as a man was raised to protect the women in my family which I ve always done and I was raised by my father who always told me that along with his sisters who taught me that as well. My wife on the other hand was raised by a single mother who was hurt in a relationship before. In short, my marriage became plagued by control of the marriage, which as a man I never think about because GOD is the control of our marriage and my job is to protect that which is out to destroy our marriage (which cannot be my wife because she is my primary focus of protection). Sorry this is so long, but God put this on my heart to share with you because my trials & tribulations that I ve overcome by the grace of God have let me know that society especially (some men and women) define respect as "catering to the other person and supporting their needs and wants) and thats wrong because respect is simply kindness.
Kindness is the compassion for others that you equally have for yourself and again, if people dont have this for themselves, how can they have it for others.

Discipline is a word a lot of people tend to use, but in the wrong context. Discipline isnt you "tolerating negative or condescending acts (verbal or physical towards you"' it is simply the self control of not negatively reacting to them, which is truly too much to ask of someone who is on the receiving end of the negativity because we are human and being human may make us intelligent, but not immune to hurt. I hope this message encourages you to keep writing blogs because people truly do get blessed by them.

Be Blessed and remember true love is 1 Corinthians 13:4